Planning a wedding can lead to dozens, if not hundreds of wedding etiquette questions. After all, how are you expected to know the answers the answers to your most pressing wedding-related inquiries if you have yet to plan an actual party of your own?
Even the most customary tasks (like registering for wedding gifts) requires a good amount of forethought and etiquette expertise. Take the engagement, for example: There is, in fact, a proper way to share the news of your brand new bauble, and it doesn’t involve immediately posting a photo of your engagement ring to Instagram. There’s even proper protocol on who pays for bridal showers, and definitive guidelines for cell phone use during a couple’s wedding ceremony and reception.
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Arguably hundreds of non-negotiable wedding etiquette rules exist for both to-be-weds and wedding guests alike, including obvious wedding mistakes to avoid at all costs and unknowable circumstances even the most seasoned wedding planners tend not to know the answers to. Navigating through each and every sticky situation with a smile can be hard work. Enter Anna Post. The etiquette expert and co-author of Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th edition ($34; amazon.com), is here to set the record straight on some of the most frequently asked wedding dilemmas. Post answers all of your most pressing etiquette questions below, and clears up confusion around topics that range from plus ones to kids-free weddings. Anna Post’s etiquette tips also include advice on registering for wedding gifts prior to a second marriage, and the correct way to address a wedding gift check. Find those answers and more below, and prepare to mind your manners once your own wedding day rolls around.